Failure is something we have all experienced at some time in life and, most likely, we might experience it in the future. Whether a failed job, a layoff, a relationship that is disastrous, be the last in a competition or anything else, the chances of failure will be higher as the more things you do in life. Obviously, if you do nothing, you will not fail but neither will achieve any success. Therefore, it is alright to risk and go for what you want, although, there is a probability of failure. If you also know how to deal with failure, you will not do too much damage and can recover quickly and you will be less afraid to take risks and, therefore more likely to succeed.
The trend you have to interpret your failures i.e., what you think of them and when you come out with crooked things, it exerts a great influence on your emotions and your behavior after a failure.
For example, two women were keen to find a partner and decided to use the Internet. After a number of meetings with various people, none of them found someone special. After this ‘failure’, one thought ‘It’s normal, to me anything right, no one likes me and I have very bad luck. It is not worth keep looking.’ By contrast, the other thought, ‘I have not found the right person, but I know he is somewhere. In addition, with each appointment that I have, I know people, learn new things about relationships and people.’ This way of thinking pushes her to keep looking until she can find someone special with whom she can start a relationship. With this in mind, after a failure you can do the following;
- Learn from your failures.
- Do not let your mind latch on turning to failure. Once you have learned all you can learn from failure, look to the future, outline a new plan of action and move on. You think you did the best and you could do with the information you had at that time. Of course, if you had been able to read the future and know what would happen, you would have done things differently.
- Focus on the positive side. What looks like a failure now it may not be the end because life can give you something better afterwards! For example, a dismissal may be the push you need to find a job you like most.